“is this a mistake, I will say something stupid”…. So many questions before my first EVER date, and I would tell you ladies it was fun and magical but honestly ……far from perfect, sorry. I didn’t date for a long long longgg…..time after that.
So he pops up on chat while I’m on Facebook. (I’ve known him through friends) he seemed nice, tall, dark hair, he starts asking me questions, we get talking, it got interesting, and that’s when he asked to take me out for a date. At this point I was starting to sweat (never been on a date!!!) I’m not even looking to date anyone, but of course I said yes. And we plan.
Hours before my date. so I’m getting ready, faffing around..to then receive a text saying he cannot make it, something had come up. I was fine about it….it happens, but not even half hour later he tells me he can make it now! What?? So now I’m flapping as I’ve just got ready to slob out on sofa, pigging out on Ben&jerrys cookie doughs while Glued to hollyoaks.
he picks me up at 7.30 and we go to a really nice restaurant, in cornwall, looking over the sea, was beautiful, we order drinks, we pick up menus and he reminds me it’s his treat.. I smile, and politely say thank you. It was going well, but then, We order our food and while waiting for the meal to come out was like waiting for the kettle to boil, but longerrrrr. No talk, it was forced, you no the awkward chat? Yeah… I thought I might have something on my face, ‘maybe I have a boogie?, would he tell me? Do I look okay? Why is he not talking???’ So I nip to the loo, I look fine! I really didn’t want to be here, I seen a window in the bath room, I could see my self about to climb out, but told myself to stop being silly, give it another go. So I head back to the table, when I get back he’s eaten half of his meal, I was, like 2 minutes!? he’s not even breathing? Scoffing it down like someone was out to rob his dinner..I haven’t even taken a bite and he’s nearly finished. I’m sure a bit of his chewed up chip flew out his mouth and hit me, I tried to brush it off with out making a deal. I thought I ate fast. So now he’s just watching me eat, conversation has been about the weather most of the date 😳.
Billing, so we ask for the bill, I offer him some money and without thinking he took it out my hand like a tiger grabbing it’s pray. I mean, I don’t mind paying, but he told me he was treating me, so i guess I was just shocked by it all, So moving on I left a tip in the tray for the waitress AND HE PICKED IT UP AND PUT IT IN HIS POCKET?, I kindly say, sorry that was for the waitress, And his reply was “they don’t need one” I was just so blown away from his behaviour I couldn’t stand my ground, I got out side, I finally felt like I could breath! I really didn’t want to get a lift home, but had no other way, so I go to get in, when he asks me if I would like to come back to his to watch a film………….SERIOUSLY? A movie? We all no what he is expecting, and after all that? I don’t think so.
that’s when I told him I don’t want to see him again or have a lift.
I ended up walking a mile home in the dark, with a phone that went dead! Telling myself I’m never to date again! He was rude, not only to me but the waitresses!
Rules and advice for your first date: when he offers… Don’t then Offer. – Make sure you phone is full battery! – make sure you have someone on call (pickups) – you see that window…you climb and you run!
mynormalcitizenlife 